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    The D Word: Reflections on the Stigma of Divorce

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    Divorce. Such a stigmatized word...and such a misunderstood relationship status update, isn’t it?  I think many, if not most, people associate divorce with failure.  I know I did at one time.

    My parents remained married until my father passed away…four decades of a life I still think would’ve been better spent separately. I think my dad thought he would be failing me if he left his marriage.  As for me, I certainly didn’t plan on becoming a single-parent statistic.  I thought that I would keep things together at all cost……because I didn’t want to fail at marriage.  

    The only thing I was failing at though…was failing to understand that I wasn’t losing at anything….because divorce, in most cases, does not equate to failure. It’s not a game.  It’s simply a diverging of a road….and we are all handed different maps with which to navigate through life.

    That’s all.

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