I promised I’d write a little blog post about where I’ve been the past few months, and why my blogging fell by the wayside for a minute. So, even though I’m not super ready to write (and I’ll explain why in a minute) I do have a few minutes of silence at home that I’m taking advantage of. Soon enough I’ll be listening to my daughter’s woes over having 6 hours of homework…and also, WHY do we do this to kids? Come on, teachers. This level of burnout is not necessary, but I digress…
This won’t be my best writing, but I keep my promises…so here we go.
Seemingly out of nowhere life came at me full tilt. Nothing serious or terrible, thankfully, but overwhelming nonetheless. My son graduated High School and along with that came a slew of emotions and pride. I was stepping into a very new and unfamiliar chapter of parenting getting him ready for college, and trying to enjoy every minute I had with him over the summer before it ended. My daughter started her first job which entailed my driving her to and from said place of employment multiple times a day (she was a server with multiple 2.5 hour shifts per day), and one of my three jobs all of a sudden tripled in workload.
At the same time, I began ghostwriting a book for one of my dearest friends which led me on a very intense and soul awakening deep dive into my own spirituality and faith. I spent hours researching and writing and absorbing the information that was channeling itself through my fingertips and onto my keyboard. I felt a shift in my heart and a newfound appreciation for that which is greater than me.
But that’s not all, folks! Right before I began writing, I had made the decision to create an online course with another good friend of mine. We’d met 20 years prior on the set of a TV commercial in Los Angeles and ended up working together multiple times over the years. Once our time in front of the cameras started to wane, we both started working for an international relocation company as relocation consultants. She eventually escaped LA and moved to Portland, and I moved to Arizona, but we kept in touch thanks to the graces of social media and our commiseration on the insane state of the world as we knew it.
Over the past few years, we’d find ourselves talking about our own relocation stories and how to best help our clients, and I kept feeling that there was more we could offer to make the whole picking-up-and-moving process a lot easier and less overwhelming for people. I knew we had the answers and an intuitive formula for this so we put our brains together and spent the last few months creating our online course and mastery. (It launches in a few weeks, and we are so excited!!) If you want a sneak peek and our free relocation inspiration guide hop over to: Get Ready. Set. MOVE!
…and then the toughest part of the last few months hit. Remember, I said I was entering a new and unfamiliar chapter in parenting? Not only did I enter it, but the pages in that chapter turned faster than I could keep up with. Between all of my work and responsibilities, and getting my son ready with the miles-long list of dorm necessities and must-do’s, the time between May graduation and August college move-in flew by at an unprecedented pace and I found myself walking him into his dorm, hugging him good-bye, fighting back tears, and driving home one a one lane mountain highway trying hard to see past the inevitable tears and sobbing.
I won’t go into the beautifully heartbreaking reality of watching your child unfurl the wings you gave them as they leap from your nest. I am quietly observing my thoughts and feelings on this and have plans to write a book about this experience over the course of the next few months.
Right now, I am having a hard time writing even just this because I get overcome by emotion. The silence in my house now is so loud. The silence, I think we all covet as parents when we are in the thick of it….you’ll be amazed at much you miss the noise once it’s gone. I do still have one child at home, but in two years it’ll be her turn to go to college. I have to stop myself from thinking about that…not sure how one deals with a completely empty nest.
I also have two other books that I plan on writing. Topics to be divulged at a later date. The point here is that I am busy. So busy. I need to stay busy because I can’t stand the silence I mentioned above…and also because I just turned 49 this summer and I need to do something powerful and transformative for myself.
I want to inspire other women in their 40s that life is just starting and that we can achieve great things and write books, teach people stuff, feel stronger, better, more amazing than ever…and stop fearing what’s on the other side of 50…60…and so on.
I’ll be writing more in this blog as well, and I still post every other Wednesday on YouTube. I may even try a few other social media platforms because if you can’t fight it, you might as well use it to create a retirement account, right? Right.
See you all soon! 🙂
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16 Comments
Stacey Billingsley
Wow, you have so many changes going on, even if they are mostly happy and proud moments. You have so much to look forward to, as well! Sometimes society seems to imply that life Is slowing down or coming to a close as we enter middle age, but my experience has been the opposite. I have so many dreams and goals still, and in many ways, it feels like life is just getting started! So far, my forties have been my favorite age. I can’t wait to see what else is in store.
September 6, 2023 at 5:28 pmMorayma
Thank you so much, Stacey! I definitely feel like I have a lot to look forward to, and I need to focus on that instead of thinking of how fast time has flown by. I love hearing that you are enjoying your 40s also and that life is just getting started for you too. It’s so empowering! We have so much more wisdom and life experience…amazing things in store for us, I think! 🙂
September 7, 2023 at 5:35 amAlicia
You are definitely in a challenging and also exciting season of life! It sounds like diving into these projects may be a bit therapeutic as you accept a new normal without your son around so much… hopefully! Good luck to you!
September 8, 2023 at 7:24 pmMorayma
Thank you so much, and I do hope all of these projects help me settle in to my new normal a little faster! 🙂
September 22, 2023 at 11:16 pmLisa
Those are some big new phases of life. I dont look forward to that but it is coming fast!
September 9, 2023 at 12:39 amMorayma
It’s absolutely wild how quickly time flies! I remember adults always saying that when I was kid….now I know!! 🙂
September 22, 2023 at 11:17 pmCatherine
Sometimes life throws us so much at one time! But it’s never more than we can handle. You write so beautifully about your life and the difficulties. I enjoy seeing you persevere through them all. Congratulations on the new books and the adventure with your old friend. You have a lot to look forward to, especially the the times when your son comes home to visit!
September 9, 2023 at 8:44 pmMorayma
Thank you so much for such a lovely comment…made me smile on a rough day so I really appreciate it! 🙂 I’m definitely excited to take on these new projects (and the challenges they’ll inevitably bring) and I can’t wait until Thanksgiving when my son will be home again for a few days!
September 22, 2023 at 11:18 pmSandi
Be kind to yourself. Somethimes it’s really just about the journey.
September 10, 2023 at 8:50 pmMorayma
Wise words and so true, thank you, Sandi! 🙂
September 22, 2023 at 11:19 pmNyxie
They say life starts at 30! But you’re proof that it also starts at 40 – and if that’s the case then I’m very excited to see where the next 9 years of my life take me!
September 11, 2023 at 9:33 amMorayma
I love it and yes! It truly feels like life starts at 40 and you have soooo much to look forward to! 🙂
September 22, 2023 at 11:19 pmLisa, Casey, Barrett Dog
What a lot of emotional and exciting experiences you have going on. Thank you for sharing.
September 11, 2023 at 6:27 pmMorayma
Thank you for stopping by and reading! I appreciate it! 🙂
September 22, 2023 at 11:20 pmLinda Winans Egeler
Wow! So much going on all at once! You are an inspiration for women in their forties and beyond. You’ve reminded me that there is always capacity to learn new things and set out on new adventures. Thanks for catching s up!
September 27, 2023 at 3:25 pmMorayma
Too much I think haha!! Thank you so much for the kind words and encouragement! 🙂
September 30, 2023 at 7:59 pm