Love Yourself.

There’s nothing quite like that magical, butterflies-in-your-stomach feeling that falling in love brings. The chemicals our brains release, the endorphins, and the fairytale sparkly magic….it’s all just so good.

It’s so easy to lose yourself in that passion and magic….and losing yourself doesn’t seem to matter in that moment…but it really does matter. A lot.

Whether that feeling comes with a happy ending or not, one thing we all need to remember is that we need to never forget to keep falling in love with ourselves, nurturing our own feelings and keeping that spark that makes us who we are, alive. Very much alive.

Falling in love with ourselves? Yikes…yes that can sound narcissistic…but that’s not what I mean at all. It’s just so easy to lose oneself with your first love, your puppy love, your true love, or even that all encompassing love you feel when you first lay eyes on the little human you just created….no better reason to hand your heart over to someone else, really.

Sometimes that self-love just goes straight out the window without our even noticing it. Next thing you know, you are sitting wondering what happened to your sense of self? What happened to the romance? Why the empty feeling even when surrounded by those you do love so very much?

It’s not something that comes easy to all of us…I know I struggle with making and taking the time that I need to make sure that my identity, my passions, those things that make me ME stay whole while I divvy up my heart and my unconditional love to my little family.  

For a long time I found that no matter how in love I was with my kids there was something lacking….and then one day I woke up and realized that I had stopped really thinking about how important it was to love myself, to fall in love with who I was at that moment.

When life becomes busy and your mind, body, heart and soul are divvied up, it’s so easy to forget that you matter…that you need to love yourself and spoil yourself and keep your SELF alive and shining.

It’s a struggle I think too many of us go through as girlfriends, wives, and mothers. We often give so much of ourselves that we lose who we were before taking on those roles…but it really doesn’t take all that much to reconnect with yourself…to stay in love with who you are.

Whether it means you spend half an hour at a bookstore browsing through your favorite prose, or drinking a cup of coffee (or glass of wine!) on your own overlooking the city, or just people watching, taking a drive or a walk down a road often ignored, or even just soaking in your tub at home with candles lit and a good book….all of those are moments in which you feed your soul…just your soul, no one else’s. Moments when you can reconnect with yourself and remember who you are and what makes you tick and how worthy you are of loving yourself.

You don’t have to be a “Real Housewife” of this and that city with a neverending bank account and trips to St. Tropez and a cornucopia of spa sessions to realize that taking time to yourself, even just minutes to yourself, are precious and needed.

Ten minutes spent with a pen in hand and a journal, a cup of tea on a rainy day or a longer than usual snuggle with your dog or cat….it’s those moments that you owe yourself and that refuel the reserves that will let you be the best YOU, the best girlfriend, the best wife, the best friend, the best mom.

It’s so good to give yourself some love…to allow yourself to fall in love with you were, who you are and who you will someday be…. to reflect a little on all of it…to feel butterflies in your tummy for yourself. Go on, try it…you deserve it! 😉

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